Ok, someone who understands Blogger, write me and explain how I answer comments, ok? Thanks.
I appreciate you writing back to my little rant last week. I'll try to keep the blog mostly upbeat, I promise. Before we got Reagan, I was determined to be very educational, to see questions as an opportunity to help others understand adoption, blah, blah, blah. And I have. Tons of times. The problem is that it's not hypothetical now. It's not educational. This isn't an object lesson. This is my life. This is my daughter. And sometimes I just wish people would keep their remarks to themselves.
We signed up for this gig. It's part of our world. I just need to determine how best to handle these situations when they fly at me.
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Don't worry, you will figure it out in your own way in your own time. Some things will continue to be irritating no matter how practiced you get at dealing with them while other things will lessen in their impact. We're getting a new set of questions now that we have 2..."are they sisters?" Of course I know what everyone wants to know, but how do I answer? It depends on the person and the situation. I might just say "yes" and leave it at that. I might say "they are now," which tells the person what they want to know and also educates. If I'm feeling really patient I might delve into "not by birth but by adoption," but this is definitely not my first choice. Sometimes it is nice to just be left alone, but most of the time I don't mind well-intentioned inquiries. What matters most, I think, is how all of this will sound to our children when they are old enough to understand the conversation. That will be the measuring stick for how to answer. Okay, ramblings done for now. Go have fun with that real daughter of yours!
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